Arment Dietrich

Social Media Pet Peeves

By: Arment Dietrich | March 9, 2011 | 
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Social media douchebag Grammar Pet Peeves was a big hit last month and I couldn’t help but notice that a LOT of us were having fun.

I honestly hesitated writing this because I felt like I might be preaching to the choir. A lot of us get it. We understand social media, we’re certified geeks, and we are here to learn at an even deeper level. But every day, I come across something on the fabulous Internet that makes me cringe, or want to reply in all caps, “YOU’RE DOING IT ALL WRONG.”

I still get the comment, all the time – Social media is a waste of time. I have far better things to do. Or, I just don’t understand how it can help my business.

Without further ado, I bring to you our list of top 10 social media pet peeves. This was not intended to be a rant, rather an attempt to eradicate douchebaggery from the social networks. If you’re doing this, you’re doing it ALL WRONG. And yes, you will continue to wonder why social media is not working for you. 

  1. Auto-DM When I follow you on Twitter, and immediately get an auto direct message asking me to friend you on Facebook or visit your website, you’ve just turned on the ICK factor, and I’ve hit the unfollow button. Seriously, I can’t believe I even have to still write about this. When I took over the Spin Sucks Twitter account, I became astounded, yes downright flabbergasted, at the number of auto-DMs that are out there in this world. I rank this right up there with automatic music on your website. Friend you on Facebook? Aren’t you at least going to buy me dinner tweet with me first?
  2. Buy my book. This was a post from a “friend” on Facebook. A friend from whom I had not heard a peep other than several check-ins on Vail’s epic mix, letting us know that he’s skiing. Then, out of blue, I get a link to buy his new book, and he didn’t even ask me, he told me. I felt abused. Imagine how your customers would feel?
  3. Link your game playing habit to Facebook. I am definitely not interested in what level you attained in Halo or however that game works.
  4. Adding “Please RT” at the end of tweets. We’ll re-tweet something if it is relevant and interesting to share with our group. Not because you asked me.
  5. Broadcast Syndrome: Symptoms begin with organizations with a very low follow to following ratio. You aren’t listening to anyone, therefore you only have yourself to talk about. You broadcast your specials, and you leave questions unanswered. We look at your profile page, and see a list of marketing messages. We yawn, we move on. You’re doing it wrong. Save that stuff for your print ads and talk to us, and share interesting information.
  6. The Follow Friday tweets with the unending lists of twitter handles. I know, a lot of people still do this. We think it’s getting old. It was a great idea when Twitter first started because we were all looking for interesting people, but sometimes it just feels like your fishing for a return follow recommendation. Sorry, now we’ve become cynical.
  7. Facebook messages. Facebook group messages from your personal page or your company page are annoying and they are spam in my book. If I “like” your page, that does not give you permission to email me. That’s for your newsletter opt-in. Even worse is when people reply to these messages because the default is to reply to all. Chewing on tin foil – same difference.
  8. Invitations to a gazillion different social networks. Must I explain?
  9. Facebook recommendations. Getting a ton of recommendations from you to “like” this page and “friend” this person.  There are certainly exceptions to this pet peeve. If it’s truly a personal recommendation for me because you know I have an interest in it,  that’s fine. But for the most part, please stop telling me who to like and where to go on facebook.
  10. Dual personality:. I follow you personally AND your company and you tweet the same things from both of your accounts. I think something is wrong with my eyes.

What are your social media pet peeves?

PS. thanks to Social Engine People for the excellent image.

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angelica7641
angelica7641
5 years 3 months ago

Oh this is so awesome. You should make this into a weekly post called Lisa’s Peeves. I’m all about eradicating douchebaggery so I support this 100%. I think you should add “Not taking the time to write a bio” as #11.

johnfalchetto
5 years 3 months ago

Oh! #6 and the endless list of @ on Fridays, some Fridays I just feel like quitting Twitter altogether.

My top SM pet peeve, and you are right I think sometimes, doesn’t everyone know this?

People who tweet non stop about their product, post, blog, promotion,… where is that un-follow button again fast.

Protected tweets, seriously? If you want to chat with your friends stay on FB

Great post Lisa, Buy my book ! 🙂

LauriRottmayer
LauriRottmayer
5 years 3 months ago

Auto Tweets. It’s just so annoying to me to see endless spewing of “stuff” with no interaction. Why bother? Seriously. I will often schedule a RT later in the day so that it gets maximum exposure than if I RT it when I first see it. But to just set things up to run always, all the time, automatically? It’s noise.

bradmarley
bradmarley
5 years 3 months ago

When I follow somebody who doesn’t seem to have the time to follow me back.

punchakpr
punchakpr
5 years 3 months ago

#when #all #words #have #a #hashtag

But I don’t mind #6. I can understand how it might be irritating if you get a lot of #ff. But when you’re starting out or aren’t known enough to be singularly featured in a #ff, it’s nice to be mentioned, even in a list. And I like #ff suggestions and will usually follow (or at lest browse) them.

feliciahudson
feliciahudson
5 years 3 months ago
Great post, Lisa! Although I’ve been on Twitter for about a year, I still consider myself a student of social media. I’m fascinated by it! As a writer, I think what saves me from committing most of these sins is that I think first about what I’m communicating, how I’m communicating and whether or not it provides value to others. I’m not sharing this as a strategy, but rather a personality characteristic that happens to work to my advantage in this instance! 🙂 I HATE when I follow someone and then I get the bulk-scheduled stream of promotional tweets! I… Read more »
lisagerber
lisagerber
5 years 3 months ago

@angelica7641 awesome idea – maybe we’ll call it Douchebaggery Eradication Edition. and seriously with the bio !!! c’mon!

RickCaffeinated
RickCaffeinated
5 years 3 months ago

Same list here, except for #4 – maybe blame that one on @danzarrella, who’s Twitter data shows that “Please RT” is the most retweeted phrase on the platform. With that, don’t abuse it – but if you’ve got the social collateral to throw it out once in a while, it’s the best way to actually have it happen – just please have something worth RT’ing before asking, right?

lisagerber
lisagerber
5 years 3 months ago

@johnfalchetto awesome – that should be part of your signature –

my name, buy my book.

lisagerber
lisagerber
5 years 3 months ago

totally agree, @LauriRottmayer , and I often schedule tweets as well. sometimes i just don’t want to fill the newsfeed all at once, so I like to spread it out. and I’ll go back in and check and still interact, it’s the message push that drives me nuts.

lisagerber
lisagerber
5 years 3 months ago

@bradmarley uh-oh, I’m bad at that one. But also, I don’t automatically follow everyone back. I’m referring back to #5 above, and other criteria I use, like angelica7@angelica7641 said below, if they don’t take the time to fill out the bio

angelica7641
angelica7641
5 years 3 months ago

That is the best name I have heard in a long time! And I think that Follow Friday is on my top 2 list as well. I’m over it! @lisagerber @angelica7641

FocusedWords
FocusedWords
5 years 3 months ago

I Unfollow people who post a link thinking that it applies to the subject without checking out the link. I tweet about RV parks, RVers, etc. and frequently see links that are for a school with the initials RV, a person whose Twitter handle is RV, etc.

FocusedWords
FocusedWords
5 years 3 months ago

Oh and one more, one person tweeting 30 messages spaced 2 seconds apart.

Wendy Ruyle
Wendy Ruyle
5 years 3 months ago

I have to add Four Square check ins on Twitter with no context. Why should I care if you are at Starbucks? And, people who autopost the same things on Twitter and Facebook. One of them is getting hidden.

paigeworthy
5 years 3 months ago

Uh, if you like someone’s Page, that IS an opt-in. You can, however, opt OUT of receiving the messages if you’re not about them.

I’m with you on the rest, though! I’ll one-up you on the name-blast #FFs: When people retweet the entire thing just to say thanks. #AUGH.

Also, a little bug of my own: It’s not a pet peeve if half the world agrees with you. That’s the whole “pet” thing.

feliciahudson
feliciahudson
5 years 3 months ago

Uh-oh. So #FF is old school now? 🙂 @angelica7641 @lisagerber

jmctigue
jmctigue
5 years 3 months ago

I’ll add Twitter follow, immediately followed by unfollow. Why do people still do this?

sydcon_mktg
sydcon_mktg
5 years 3 months ago

Preach away, Lisa! Sometimes even if we all get it, it still needs to be said!

I 100% agree with all 10 on your list! One I can think of adding is constantly re-tweeting the same message (not new blog posts), but just constant repetition day in and day out!

lisagerber
lisagerber
5 years 3 months ago

@feliciahudson @angelica7641 @lisagerber it’s arguable, but yes, in my opinion, it’s old school. It was helpful when we first got started but I am not interested in clicking through lists of twitter handles to see if I want to follow them. There are plenty of tools out there to find interesting people to follow. I want content in my newsfeed.

lisagerber
lisagerber
5 years 3 months ago

@bradmarley uh-oh. i might be guilty of that one. although, I don’t automatically return follows. have to be interesting and relevant and not number 5: suffering from Broadcast Syndrome

alexklevine
alexklevine
5 years 3 months ago

Totally agree on all but one point- I LOVE a thoughtful #followfriday i.e. #FF @lisagerber because I find her blog posts about social media to be insightful or #FF @bazecraze because all of his tweets make me giggle

lisagerber
lisagerber
5 years 3 months ago

OHHHH @punchakpr , I meant to include that one. #can #not #read #tweets with lots of hashtags. what is #with #that. ??

sydcon_mktg
sydcon_mktg
5 years 3 months ago

Oh, wait I thought of another one! To go along with #6, retweeting the original FF with a thank you! By all means, thank the person who gave you a FF…but when it gets retweeted its a bit, shall we say douchey?

paigeworthy
5 years 3 months ago

@lisagerber @punchakpr I think hashtags are HYSTERICAL. The meaningless ones can go die in a fire, but otherwise, I think they can really show off how clever someone is. I had an entire conversation in hashtags the other night instead of watching SNL.

My favorite: “#mightaswellfaceit #youreaddicted #tohash …#tags”

paigeworthy
5 years 3 months ago

I get so many spam followers these days that I don’t follow back unless someone actually engages me in conversation. Because I *don’t* actually have time to waste investigating when 8 out of 10 “people” who follow aren’t even real. @bradmarley

johnson619
johnson619
5 years 3 months ago

As others have said, tweeting 100 times per day…get over yourself, you’re NOT that important.

punchakpr
punchakpr
5 years 3 months ago

@paigeworthy @lisagerber Ha! Now that’s putting hashtags to good use! I like it when they’re used for fun, but putting too many in “serious” tweets looks a little desperate (#epic #hastag #fail). And for sure, difficult to read.

HBAofCT
HBAofCT
5 years 3 months ago

Agreed on the above, but dead links are the worst. You’d think people would check to be sure the links are correct and active, but not always. Please don’t waste my time!

paigeworthy
5 years 3 months ago

@johnson619 I tweet 100 times a day sometimes, but I’m under no illusion that I’m important. I just really like Twitter.

#dealwithit

ericadechi
ericadechi
5 years 3 months ago

Point #1 hit home for me. I would also add having a twitter handle where every single (I’m talking from day1) tweet is a Foursquare checkin!

lesmckeown
lesmckeown
5 years 3 months ago

Shoot. I’m so bad at this. I do 6 of see. Shoot.

lesmckeown
lesmckeown
5 years 3 months ago

6 of these. Duh.

EdgeLink
EdgeLink
5 years 3 months ago

As much as I wish it weren’t the case, the use of the plea, “Please RT” does yield results. So says Dan Zarella, anyway…

feliciahudson
feliciahudson
5 years 3 months ago

Hmmm. Good point. I think all these pet peeves might be no-brainers for social media savvy folks, but I don’t think they can be repeated too often. More and more people are joining (or returning to) Twitter . These insights are helpful so you don’t unknowingly make an ass of yourself :-). So one final question: Are you more likely to follow individuals who are recommended by people you follow on Twitter or would you still prefer to only find people on your own? @lisagerber @angelica7641

lisagerber
lisagerber
5 years 3 months ago

@Wendy Ruyleagreed! any LBS check-ins. I like my social media in silos. I don’t want to see that you checked into Starbucks on facebook either.

lisagerber
lisagerber
5 years 3 months ago

@FocusedWords that’s where I argue that scheduling tweets out is ok. I don’t like it when someone hogs my newsfeed either!

lisagerber
lisagerber
5 years 3 months ago

@paigeworthy Sure it’s an opt-in but really, it’s an opt-in to receive the news in my newsfeed, it is not an opt-in to send me private messages continually. I was being a bit tongue in cheek. HOWEVER, i did not realize I can opt out of the messages. I am going to find that setting now.

lisagerber
lisagerber
5 years 3 months ago

@sydcon_mktg and if i can just eliminate one DM, just ONE DM, I’ll feel like I’ve accomplished something. 🙂

lisagerber
lisagerber
5 years 3 months ago

@alexklevine @lisagerber@bazecraze YES!!! in that case, I am totally ok with it. and you’re right, it is definitely thoughtful and actually tells me why I’d like to follow this person. If I don’t want someone to make me giggle, I don’t have to bother even clicking.

lisagerber
lisagerber
5 years 3 months ago

@lesmckeown Really? are you saying you’re a social media douchebag? I don’t think so. I have not observed that from you.

ginidietrich
ginidietrich
5 years 3 months ago

@lesmckeown You so do not do six of these.

FocusedWords
FocusedWords
5 years 3 months ago

@lisagerber @sydcon_mktg Ever noticed how DM could be an abbreviation for Damn Message?

DannyBrown
5 years 3 months ago

Sheep that retweet anything from the “names” because… well, it’s BOUND to be awesome, isn’t it? 😉

ginidietrich
ginidietrich
5 years 3 months ago

@jmctigue I once spoke on a panel with a person who does this. I asked her a bunch of questions (to the point that I probably pushed too hard on it) and she couldn’t really tell me why she did it.

ginidietrich
ginidietrich
5 years 3 months ago

@FocusedWords Oh yeah! That happened A LOT in the early days of Twitter!

ginidietrich
ginidietrich
5 years 3 months ago

@bradmarley I might be guilty of that, too. I turned off my email notifications a long time ago so, sometimes, I just don’t know if someone new is following me. My rule now is if you tweet me, I follow you. Otherwise I’d spend two hours every day going through Twitter.com to follow people back.

ginidietrich
ginidietrich
5 years 3 months ago

I have another one to add…people who ask you to do things for them when they’ve NEVER tweeted you. I get at least one DM a day with someone saying, “Gini, can you help me with XYZ cause?” Sure! If you build a relationship with me and then introduce the cause. Otherwise NO FREAKING WAY!

JamesDBurrell2
5 years 3 months ago
I don’t know what all the commotion is about here. When I receive a spammed tweet replying to mine about the beach telling me where #all #the #hot #singles are in my area, I’m immediately plugging the coordinates into my GPS and off on an epic adventure. I also really enjoy DM’s with zero relevancy to my life – so thrilled am I to learn about Whole Life Insurance policies at the age of 25 with ZERO dependents. But my favorite by far are the clever folks on Facebook that try to fool me into thinking we are actually long-lost… Read more »
KimbaGreen
KimbaGreen
5 years 3 months ago

I really have a problem with people who RT a tweet that has a bad link. Are you not reading what you are RTing? How can you suggest I read something when you haven’t read it yourself?

What number are we up to now? 22 Social Media Pet Peeves?

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