Guest post by Frank Dickinson of Huckleberry Media Connection.

Not where you want to be in life or business?

Tired of that sickening feeling in the pit of your gut?

Do you find yourself blaming others?

The Company.

The Pay Plan.

The Job.

The Wife.

The Husband.

The Childhood.

The Money Problem.

The Kids.

Have you ventured out and been slapped back?

Ready to quit?


Read on, please.

Three years ago, almost to the day, I was at a place in life and business where I could honestly answer YES to each and every one of the above questions.

I know the feelings and pain associated with wanting to give up. Not fun – not fun at all.

Thankfully I found a mentor – or he found me, I’m still not sure.

Here are the things I learned that changed me just enough to consider the possibility of staying in the game.

Three Truths that Made the Difference

1. I learned: A person cannot do anything beyond his self-image.

We all have a self-image – the way we see ourselves. Where most people go awry is that they do not connect that self-image with how they think about – and act – in the world around them.

It’s an unwritten rule that a person simply cannot act in a way that is different from her self-image. I’m not talking about “faking it ’til you make it.” I’m talking about living a true and authentic life. You can’t do that without a positive, inspiring, beautiful self-image.

You just cannot.

Change your mind and you change your life.

It REALLY is not any harder than that – please do not try and make it so.

2. I learned: Focus on other people.

When you take your focus off your self-hatred and turn that focus positively on other people, they look back at you a certain way and you realize that you made a difference, and your thinking about you begins to change.

Your response to you changes when people respond to your gracious love and help.

Do you want to change you? Go help others.

3. I learned: You don’t have to get it right, you just have to get it going.

Have you spent the last six months “learning the business”? Let me ask you: How much closer has that taken you to your goal? Are the bills still rolling in while you are out there “taking it all in”?

You don’t have to get it right, you just have to get it going.

Action is a great motivator. The best in my book. Take it from me, you will NEVER learn it all. There is way too much information out there and it is in constant flux.

Stop holding yourself back with the notion that you have to KNOW it before you can DO it.

Ladies and gents, it’s time to get off your butt, stop being enthralled by all the “shiny things,” and get into action.

Conclusion: Get past your negative self-image. Do it by taking action now. Make your first action all about helping others.

No one is holding you back – but you.

Frank Dickinson is a blogger and affiliate marketer. He is chief cook and bottle washer at Huckleberry Media Connection, a little joint near St. Louis whose goal is to “create conversations in a world of chatter.”