Gini Dietrich

Help Change the Laws On Stalking

By: Gini Dietrich | June 7, 2011 | 
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It was 2:40 a.m. and the phone rang.

“Hello?”

“I saw you today.”

“Excuse me?”

“You were wearing a black suit, a blue and white checked shirt, black pantyhose, and black and white heels with a peep toe.”

“Who is this?”

“I’ll be watching you.”

I sat up straight in bed. A man’s voice I didn’t recognize knew exactly what I wore to work that day.  He called to tell me about it and then hung up.

He had my home phone number.

He knew what I was wearing!

I called the police. “I’m sorry, ma’am,” she said, “There isn’t anything we can do about a phone call.”

And so I tried to go back to sleep, with every light in my apartment turned on.

This happened night after night. Me being awakened in the middle of the night to a man’s voice on the other end of the phone, telling me what I’d been wearing that day, where I’d gone, who I’d been with.

And there wasn’t anything the police could do.

So I changed my phone number.

And then he started following me. I noticed him one day, when I was out running errands. A red Nissan Sentra. Following me everywhere. So I found the nearest police station and drove into the parking lot.

I went inside and he drove away.

Same thing. “I’m sorry, ma’am. There isn’t anything we can do unless he attacks you.”

Unless he attacks me? Are you serious?

And then he poisoned my dog. The poor puppy almost died.

Again. “I’m sorry, ma’am. There isn’t anything we can do unless he attacks YOU.”

We finally got the guy when he put cameras in my closet and my bathroom. I was getting dressed one morning and I noticed a little black, almost headphone-looking thing. I tried picking it up and it was attached to a cord that went into my wall and up through my ceiling.

Even though he never attacked me, it was enough for the police that he was watching me shower and get dressed. Finally.

Jodi’s Voice

But some people aren’t so lucky.

Jodi’s Voice was set up out of tragedy. It was named after Jodi Sanderholm, who was murdered by a stalker who had been watching her for 10 years.

Jodi was only 19 when she died, which meant she had been watched by her killer since she was nine years old.

Sadly, this is commonplace among stalking victims. In the U.S. alone, 14 in every 1,000 women of 18 and older are victims of stalking.

And these are only the reported ones.

For Jodi, it was too late. But through Jodi’s Voice, we can help make sure her tragic death is one that helped change the way the law deals with stalkers.

How You Can Help

On June 23, Jodi’s Voice will be having an event in Las Vegas called Fight Stalking in partnership with Sky Combat Ace. Celebrities from the world of entertainment will be going up against each other in aerial combat. Supporters of each celebrity can back their champions with donations and messages of support, and the funds raised will go to Jodi’s Voice.

And it’s the June event for Danny Brown’s 12for12K, an organization that aims to raise a minimum of $12,000 for a different charity each month.

You can help by:

  • If you or someone you know has been the victim of stalking and you wish to share your story, share in the comments or on our Facebook page.
  • Add a 12for12k Twibbon to your Twitter or Facebook profile picture. Details can be found here along with instructions on how to change your picture.
  • Write a blog post of your own, and either share your story or link back to this post.
  • Make a donation to Jodi’s Voice, a full 501(c)3 registered charity (12for12K is talking with a few organizations to make a matching grant). You can use the ChipIn widget below, and it will go direct to Jodi’s Voice and you will receive a tax receipt (payments can be made via Paypal or credit card) – just click on the green ChipIn button. You can also embed the widget on your own blog by using the Copy option.
  • Embed this video on your blog or share the link on Twitter and Facebook, and help raise awareness of some of the statistics around stalking.

If you have your own story, or know someone that does, I’d love to read about it in the comments below or provide a link to your blog post about it. Anything you can do to help raise awareness is great.

Perhaps we can even get laws changed so it doesn’t take an attack or a murder before something is done.

About Gini Dietrich


Gini Dietrich is the founder and CEO of Arment Dietrich, an integrated marketing communications firm. She is the author of Spin Sucks, co-author of Marketing in the Round, and co-host of Inside PR. She also is the lead blogger at Spin Sucks and is the founder of Spin Sucks Pro.

  • I was the victim of stalking. I was also raped. Expect a long blog post tomorrow. This is my main mission in life and why I blog in the first place. Imagine what life would be like if these kinds of crimes – staking, domestic abuse, rape – were not tolerated in this country. Don’t get me started on the numbers of women killed by a former lover of spouse.

    To think a few years ago I could have wound up a statistic myself makes me thankful to be alive. I hope one day to be able to help women who are stuck to get out before it is too late.

  • ryancox

    I am so uncomfortable after reading that. That is one of the most real-life horror film things I’ve ever heard. I cannot believe that someone would do that, let alone get away with it. I’m broke as heck, but I just coughed up $10 because that law needs to be changed, and it needs to be changed yesterday. I’m so glad you’re okay Gini. You are my mentor after all, I’d be frustratedly less successful and lost without you.

  • Gini – your courage never ceases to amaze me.

  • SoloBizCoach

    That’s an awful story Gini. My wife was involved in a stalking incident in college. It was very scary.

    Out of curiosity, what did they do to @thesaleslion when they caught him stalking you?

  • AngelaDaffron

    @ryancox Thank you Ryan! Every bit helps and to know that you made the contribution when you are “broke as heck” means the world!

    Angela, http://www.jodisvoice.org

  • AngelaDaffron

    Thank you for helping to bring awareness to this very serious crime Gini! Your courage to share your own story helps even more people to see the need for change!

  • @NancyD68 Wow, Nancy. I’m sitting here open mouthed and what happened to you, your willingness to share it so openly, and your courage. I can’t wait to see your blog post. I for one and grateful that you are here and your voice is strong.

  • Wow. I have been so lucky in life (at least I like to think so) and never encountered what you, Jodi and @NancyD68 (and countless other women) have faced. It’s shocking the way the laws are set up and that until you’re attacked, nothing can be done???!!! Crazy. Moving post, Gini. Sent chills up my spine. There’s also a special kind of punishment for sick people who harm animals. At least there should be.

  • samtaracollier

    Wow Gini that’s so incredibly scary. It’s a blessing that nothing physical happened to you but emotionally it’s got to be tough. And I can’t believe the reaction from the police!!? That is AWFUL. I’ve heard before the police aren’t their to protect you, they are there to catch the bad guys after they do it. I don’t believe that 100% but it rings true in this case.

    Thank you for sharing your story and the information about what happened to Jodi. I haven’t been stalked but I’ve known others who have, and I remember hearing their terrifying stories. It’s heart wrenching. 🙁

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  • Gini, this is an awful story and I am sorry that you had to live through it. The tale also shows why things need to be changed. Stalking is horrible enough, but poisoning a dog too? there is a special place in hell for folks like him.

  • This gave me chills. As the mother of a 15-year-old daughter, I can’t imagine someone watching her since she was nine. I am literally sickened at the thought of it. I am grateful you brought this to my attention Gini. And btw, I think you are even braver, stronger and more resilient than I did before.

  • @EricaAllison The bad part is that I have been stalked more than once. I will probably have to do a series. One stalker lived only a few doors away from me. One was a former boyfriend who terrorized me, and the rape was actually my best friend’s husband (because he is a classy guy)

    My mission is to help women speak up about these awful things. I am so glad that this is not the source of shame that it once was.

  • @EricaAllison Hurting animals deserves a very special punishment. Hurting a child deserves an extreme punishment. I say all the time if someone hurts my son on purpose – I WILL MAKE YOUR DEATH LOOK LIKE AN ACCIDENT!

    No one will miss someone like that anyway. Just saying.

  • Gini,

    Reading your post sent me back to my college days when I had a similar experience. My caller loved to tell me what time my curtains closed and describe the visitors to my apartment. A similar, polite “nothing we can do until he harms you” response came every time I called the police. My stalker was stopped when he tried to flash me as a police car was passing by I consider this proof positive that God has a sense of humor. The policeman was one who had told me nothing could be done. The stalker was arrested and convicted as a flasher. Nothing was done about the stalking. Thank you for sharing your story.

  • ginidietrich

    @NancyD68 @EricaAllison This is why you have a Louisville slugger! I actually hadn’t thought about my college boyfriend who stalked me…even sending thugs to my dorm room with guns. It was so ridiculous it’s laughable.

  • ginidietrich

    @NancyD68 You have had the craziest life. I’m so sorry to read this. I’m really proud of you for how much you’ve done and what a great kid you have. Most people would have crumbled.

  • ginidietrich

    @ryancox I’m lucky, Ryan. Think of those who have been attacked, raped, or murdered. None of those things happened to me. I’m very, very lucky.

  • Thank you for being brave enough to tell the world this story in such clear, concise terms. This must convince people that more is needed to put a stop to this and ensure basic standards of safety.

  • ginidietrich

    @Sean McGinnis I have four brothers…I wanted to beat the crap out of the guy!

  • ginidietrich

    @SoloBizCoach@thesaleslion LMAO!!!!!!! Best comment of the day!

  • Gini, I never knew.

    I’m so sorry that you had to go through something like that.

    Some people are just freaking nasty.

    Thanks for sharing your story.

    JL

  • ginidietrich

    @AngelaDaffron You’re welcome, Angela! It’s very important work you’re doing and I hope the help of 12for12K and this community will help you achieve some goals.

  • ginidietrich

    @NancyD68 @EricaAllison You should talk to pattiknight about what should happen to people who harm animals (cough, Michael Vick, cough). She gets very wound up about it.

  • ginidietrich

    @samtaracollier It was really awful to be that scared and have no protection. We actually caught the guy because my neighbor was a cop and I asked him to look at the cameras I found. I’m not so sure the police would have responded.

  • balemar

    *hugs* I know how terrifying and alone stalking can make you feel. Living with the feeling of being constantly on edge. Feeling that no where is safe. Feeling completely and utterly helpless. It robs you of your security – not just while it’s happening, but for a very long time.

    Gini, Thank you for your reminder that it does happen – more often than we think. No one is immune to stalking. It’s demoralizing to be constantly turned away when you need help the most. I’m glad you ended up finally getting the guy, but you’re right – so many woman don’t even get the chance.

  • ginidietrich

    @jeffespo Poor puppy. He was so sick. He threw up all over the backseat of my car. It was lucky I was home when it happened or he would have died.

  • @ginidietrich Again hell has special places for douche canoes

  • @ginidietrich one day, if we have time, I will tell you my story. It will freak you out. I have seen a lot for a 42 year old. I have been stalked, beaten, robbed, raped…and lived through it all and am a better person for it. Now all I really want is to be able to help others.

  • Gini, this story just makes my skin crawl.

    I had an issue, a couple of years ago, while I was living by myself downtown: some guy called me, every night (at around 2a) and would only speak to me in Spanish (a language I don’t speak). This went on for two weeks. Then I told my dad, a Homicide Detective, about it. He tried tracing the number, and it came up as a pre-paid cell phone, which apparently can’t be traced. Needless to say, my dad took care of the situation (he called the guy and threatened him with God knows what…)

    Just getting the phone calls is frightening enough. I cannot imagine what you went through, but I thank you for sharing your story. And I know I’m not alone in saying this: I’m very thankful you’re okay!

  • ginidietrich

    @MimiMeredith I can’t imagine it either, Mimi. With technology I think we need to be even more careful. I love Foursquare, but I don’t connect it to my social networks. I never use Facebook Places. I rarely talk about where I’m traveling until after I get back. Things to be thinking about to teach the kids.

  • ginidietrich

    @Debra_Ellis It’s shocking to me that the police can’t do anything. It’s still shocking to me, even though I heard it multiple times. That whole innocent until proven guilty thing, huh? Thanks for sharing your story, too. It’s part of the reason I don’t list my cell phone number anywhere.

  • ginidietrich

    @wabbitoid It was a long time ago so the emotion of it is gone. Anything we can do to help change the laws is pretty important!

  • ginidietrich

    @FranchiseKing It was a long time ago and it’s not really something I talk about. It’s way more fun to stalk you online anyway. 🙂

  • ginidietrich

    @balemar It’s really scary. I hope, with us just talking about it here, we begin to raise awareness (and money) to get the laws changed!

  • ginidietrich

    @KatieFassl I wish I’d known your dad when this happened. It helps to have friends in the police department!

  • @ginidietrich Me too! And yes, it does help to have friends in the police department. It’s just so crazy to me that they actually told you, “I’m sorry, ma’am. There isn’t anything we can do unless he attacks YOU.” Unbelievable.

  • MichelleFlores

    @ginidietrich stalking is a horrible, horrible thing, and the laws MUST be changed and enforced to bring these people to justice!

    Unfortunately, we had a very tragic event take place exactly 11 months ago, today. A member of our family, Vonnie Flores, was gunned down and murdered by her stalker (who happened to be her next door neighbor), right in her front yard – in front of her husband. She was stalked by this man for 5 years, and nothing was done to protect her!

    This happened in the small mountain town of Leadville, Colorado. Needless to say, this tragedy has not only affected her family, but the entire Leadville community.

    The stalking laws are way too stringent, and it’s not until something actually happens, will law enforcement listen.

    Unfortunately for Vonnie, it was too late, but hopefully with increased awareness, and tougher laws, it will be soon enough to save someone else.

    Below are some links to various websites (including a link to Vonnie’s Voice 5K Walk/Run, that will occur later this summer). We’re raising funds, so that “Vonnie’s Voice” might be heard.

    http://www.9news.com/news/story.aspx?storyid=142775&catid=339

    http://www.michelle-flores.com/were-going-to-miss-you-vonnie

    Vonnie’s Voice 5K Walk/Run – http://www.vonniesvoice5k.com/HOME_T.aspx?event_id=152

    https://www.facebook.com/pages/Vonnies-Voice-5k-walkrun-August-6-2011-Leadville-Colorado/222510684427351?sk=info

  • ginidietrich

    @MichelleFlores OMG Michelle! This is just awful. I am so sorry. Thank you for sharing the story and the links.

  • C_Pappas

    Wow! I have chills! The internet is just making things scarier! Did I read that you could take a picture of someone and find out who they are? Remember when they were advertising contact info for license plates? ‘See a hot chick, write down her plate and get her name and phone #.’ Yikes!! I have been VERY fortunate to not have been in any of these types of situations (I have had guys try and get in my car – twice – while sitting in traffic but no stalking) and my heart goes out to these woman and men that found themselves victims of these psychos.

    Great post for a good cause. Thanks for sharing this story Gini!

  • ginidietrich

    @KatieFassl Yep. More than once. It truly was unbelievable. I started to cry in the station and asked them what I should do. They said, “Don’t go anywhere alone.”

  • MichelleFlores

    @ginidietrich Thank you, @ginidietrich . Hopefully if we continue to spread the word, and make our cries heard, the laws will continue to strengthen…

  • Gini, wow, I’m literally blown away but what happened to you. Thanks for finding a way to turn it into a positive to help others. What you and Danny are doing here is pretty amazing.

    Marcus

  • Gini, I am so sorry to have heard about your experience but am very glad that you blogged about it. A friend of mine went through something similar in college. We talked to the police about it and they said the same thing to her.

    One of the cops told her that if I wasn’t her boyfriend she might consider making me one so that I would be around more frequently. It wasn’t very helpful.

    Even though my daughter is quite young I have wondered and worried about this. It is really important to keep talking about.

  • Gini, I’m so sorry that this happened to you – I had no idea. 🙁

  • Wow, that’s terrifying. What a horrible experience to live through. I hope people support Danny’s 12for12K efforts and donate to this important organization. Thanks for helping to spread the word, and for sharing your story. I’m sure it wasn’t easy.

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  • @ginidietrich i applaud you and the others below for sharing your stories! I am going to share them with my soon to be 13 yr old daughter. She has a friend who has a youtube channel & is constantly making videos in her bedroom and give out too much information. She has made videos with other kids in them too (my daughter has been threatened & warned that I will check daily to make sure she is never in one!). Kids always think this wont happen! Shoot, I am sure many adults think it won’t happen. But it does.

    I told my daughter it could be a neighbor or someone you know, you can’t be too careful. I also told her that the first thing you hear on the news when someone has been caught is “oh they were such a nice person, had no idea they were a sicko!”

    Thanks to dannybrown for helping bring attention to this!

  • This is a terrifying story, and I got the chills from reading the reactions from the police — are you kidding me? Is this what protecting our citizens looks like? Crazy. I’m sure I’ll keep thinking of this whenever the debate over allowing kids on Facebook continues — just imagine what information could get out if young kids start sharing unknowingly. *shudder*

    Jodi’s Voice is a needed organization, clearly. I’m going to do the best I can to support it.

  • AngelaDaffron

    @annedreshfield Thank you for your support!

  • @TheJackB Jack it is amazing how insensitive even some police officers can be regarding stalking! I actually had one tell me that it “was hot” that my stalker was a girl. I was furious! In what sick world is anything about that “hot!?!?”

  • @MichelleFlores @ginidietrich Michelle, I have spoken to some CO representatives about stalking legislation. We should talk more!

  • @ginidietrich @MimiMeredith Too many people are teaching their kids the right way to behave online and then not following their own advice!

  • @ginidietrich I’m speechless.

  • KevinVandever

    This is kind of the opposite of a blog about nothing. I was stunned and a bit emotional when I read it. I have a friend whose daughter went through something similar during her college days and, as you know, I have two teenage daughters who both live very free and independent lives. I love that about them and instill that in them, but also try to balance that with information and stories such as yours to keep them grounded and aware.

    Thank you for sharing your story and providing suggestions on how we can help.

  • @AngelaDaffron It is crazy. I remember speaking with campus police about it too. One of them suggested that I grab a few friends and have a conversation with the guy about why he would be better served to spend his time elsewhere.

    Actually that was what I wanted to do, but I was shocked when a cop made the suggestion. Looking back I am not so surprised but…

  • Oh my God Gini… I’m so sorry this happened to you. And thank you for having the courage to share your story with the rest of us. XOJA.

  • geoffliving

    My God. I am so sorry.

  • @TheJackB I have heard multiple stories of that being the solution in the eyes of responding law enforcement. Their hands are tied and they get frustrated too, but it is still no excuse. Officers told me to make sure I emptied my gun before calling them. I relocated to another state before it got to that point. Kind of strange though to have an police officer make that statement.

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  • ginidietrich

    @geoffliving It was a long time ago, but thanks. Hopefully it helps raise awareness.

  • ginidietrich

    @JonAston It’s too bad because I would go in the unreported stats. I’m sure this happens more often than not. It’s really scary.

  • ginidietrich

    @KevinVandever As long as you keep talking to them about how to protect themselves, you’re far ahead of any stalker. I like the comparison to the movie “Taken.” Except you’re better looking than Liam Neeson.

  • ginidietrich

    @annedreshfield It’s sad and true. I cried in the police station more than once. And you’re right – technology is making us more vulnerable. It’s definitely something we need to consider.

  • ginidietrich

    @sydcon_mktg If you want me to talk to her, let me know. Maybe hearing it from me would help.

  • ginidietrich

    @Nikki_Stephan It was a long time ago so it makes it easier. But it’s not something I talk about so a lot of my close friends have emailed or called today to say WTF? 🙂

  • @AngelaDaffron One of the reasons that I was told to bring friends was to make sure that everyone saw that I was forced to defend myself. It is frustrating because it is a sort of silly game that we sometimes have to play.

  • ginidietrich

    @dannyiny Thanks, Danny. It was a long time ago so even the emotional scars are gone.

  • ginidietrich

    @AngelaDaffron @TheJackB O.M.G.

  • ginidietrich

    @Marcus_Sheridan I’m happy to share the story if it helps. I don’t know that I’ll have a personal story for every 12for12K charity, though. 🙂

  • ginidietrich

    @C_Pappas Just like we’ve been talking about on Twitter, we have to be REALLY careful about how we use technology. cristerdelacruz checks in, on Foursquare, into cabs (with the number and all), when she’s alone. Just in case. It’s a smart strategy.

  • @ginidietrich @JonAston an estimated 83% go unreported. I am not sure how the researchers came to 83%, but that is what they say…

  • @sydcon_mktg @ginidietrich dannybrown She should speak to my daughter. She learned it all first hand when Jodi was killed.

  • @TheJackB Very silly!

  • adamtoporek

    Gini, such a powerful story. I am sorry that you had to go through it, and it is truly admirable, that you are willing to share it publicly. I think sharing the stories is really an important step in raising awareness of the issue. Someone close to me was stalked, and while it never escalated to what you went through, if you go through it at any level, you quickly understand how much fear and uncertainty a stalker can bring to someone’s life. I don’t think a lot of people who haven’t had a connection to stalking get it, so people like you who have the courage to share their stories are so important.

    Thanks for sharing and for supporting such a great cause!

  • ginidietrich

    @adamtoporek It’s true that if you have a personal story to tell, it makes it more real. Anything to help raise awareness and change laws!

  • I was just thinking about that! I tell my daughter all the time to be so careful in relaying information, and then I chat it up like a) the world wants to know and b) no one would think of doing anything with that info. Naive. Stupid. Bad example. Convicted on all accounts, @AngelaDaffron !

  • I had no idea about this! and as I read it, I kept thinking you were telling the story to make a point, not that you were writing from first-person. I kept waiting….I just can’t imagine how terrifying that was!

    I was just in the car with my niece over the weekend who got a text from someone she didn’t know. she kept responding to him, trying to figure out who it was and I told her to stop. then she asked him, “do you go to ____(her school)__?” I didn’t want to be the freakazoid aunt, but I insisted she stop talking to him and explained that she was providing him leading information about herself!

    She ended up remembering who he was. I should have known better, she’s flaky just like her aunt. But the point is that yes – it is so much easier to stalk now than it was then given, the tools we now have. We just cannot be careful enough.

  • @Lisa Gerber Oh Lisa, you are so right! My daughter has done the same, when she gets texts from people she can’t place! I am a MAJOR FREAKAZOID…it makes her crazy. But she knows, I read texts, view text logs, have full acces w/password to her locked down facebook as well. It’s too scary out there

  • ginidietrich

    @Lisa Gerber It’s like when we were in NYC and I got that text that said, “It’s Scott from LA. I’m in Chicago.” I have NO idea who it was and I didn’t answer. Can you imagine if I hadn’t thought about it and said, “Oh shoot. I’m in NYC.”??

  • It goes without saying, but thank you for being brave enough to share your story, miss, and for your awesome support. You’re one of the best – thank you.

  • jennwhinnem

    Gini – I had to read the comments – this really happened. my God. I am sorry. I find it amazing you share as much as you do online given that experience – not a criticism, more like a thank you for not giving up on the rest of us.

  • Gini, you need to get a gun. Just sayin’Gonna try to get involved in this as much as possible. Off to do this homework!

  • Well I’ve rarely been so disgusted. Who are these people?? They can’t be allowed to get away with crap like this. I applaud you for speaking out and bringing attention to this. We can’t expect people to just take this and keep taking it until the worst happens. I’m glad they got your guy. Maybe if these nutcases start seeing real consequences much sooner into their “cycles” then we can make examples of these guys.

  • kamkansas

    This post hits very close to home for me for two reasons. First, I was stalked several years ago. Second, Jodi Sanderholm lived in a city not far from mine, so I was one of the journalists who helped report on her vicious murder. Jodi’s killer had stalked other women before. Some didn’t take it seriously. Others were told by police that nothing could be done until they were physically harmed. Jodi’s story is such a tragedy.

    As a survivor of stalking myself, it’s hard to describe the level of fear and anguish that goes with this crime. This stalker had staked out my home, wandered around my workplace, followed me to lunch with friends and even showed up at my church. For months, security guards at work walked me to and from my car. That was more than the police could do, even though I filed a report every time he called or showed up. The laws must change. Gini, thank you for sharing your story and for sharing Jodi’s. Jodi had a very bright future, but it was stolen from her. Let’s all band together to make the world a safer place by changing these laws.

  • @kamkansas Yes, Jodi’s killer had stalked many other women. I am not even certain we ever knew exactly how many. That is what encouraged me to start the law change…her murder never should had happened! Had Jodi’s Law been in effect in 2006 she would still be here. Her killer would have been arrested for stalking before that day in January.

  • KimDavies

    I am had goosebumps when I read this post, Gini. Thank you very much for sharing this with us. Although I know stalking is very much present in our society, hearing a story about it from people we know and look up to makes it more real somehow.

  • ginidietrich

    @DannyBrown Are you OK? You just said something nice to me. I don’t know how to react.

  • ginidietrich

    @jennwhinnem Thanks Jenn! It was a long time ago so it makes it easier to share the story. I still get that feeling of panic when I think about it. Hopefully we can help get the laws changed.

  • ginidietrich

    @Brankica I’ve actually thought about learning how to use a gun, getting a permit, and having one. But I’m not so sure I’d have the confidence to use it in a case like this. Instead, I have a dog, a security system, a husband with a bat, and I can break a nose!

  • ginidietrich

    @JohnGarrett Unfortunately I think people like this don’t think about consequences. Certainly the man that stalked Jodi for 10 years and then killed her didn’t think about the consequences. Sometimes even the death penalty isn’t enough to make them stop.

  • ginidietrich

    @kamkansas I love blogging for this very reason: I learned something new about you. Thank you for sharing both the story about having to cover this crisis, but also your own story.

  • ginidietrich

    @KimDavies Thanks for the nice comment, Kim. It’s really scary and I hope we can do everything possible to affect change.

  • PeterGault

    @sydcon_mktg @Lisa Gerber I do the same w/my kids. This is serious stuff. Even my 17 yr old son – about to be 18 is required to keep his user and password info in the family profile log. We monitor texts and all social profiles.

    I have an aunt who has dealt with stalking issues a few times throughout her life – back before there were any stalking laws. Thankfully she’s always had the support of family including a twin brother who’s in the police force who was able to help resolve her situations. There are so many who aren’t so lucky.

  • @AngelaDaffron @ginidietrich Thanks ladies, I may take you up on that offer one day!

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  • Gini,

    I wanted to comment on this the other day, but I had such poor internet connection stuck way out on a desolate island off the GA coast (sigh). I am truly speechless at your story, and I am just very relieved everything worked out for you in the end, and I also applaud your courage for sharing with us. I certainly hope we never get to a 1984 like state punishing “thought crimes”, but it is absolutely black and white that stalking isn’t such a crime. It is an act of aggression and a threat to those being stalked. I certainly will heed your call to arms in this fight, and my only hope is that our collective voice is heard.

    Thank you —

  • ginidietrich

    @JamesDBurrell2 Is that why it took you so long to start a new WWF game??

  • @ginidietrich That and I was drowning in the tears of my own sobbing. It seems to have reached the point that beating you may be the pinnacle of my WWF career, not to be topped, and unlike Brett Farve, I may have to hang up my cleats thereafter as to retire on top.

  • ginidietrich

    @JamesDBurrell2 Don’t cry. I’ll let you win this next game so you’re confident again.

  • @ginidietrich I won’t stand for it. By coddling me, you’re only setting me up for future failures. Tough love, Gini, tough love. I shall endure.

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  • Gini, I found your story (just now) through the Jodi’s voice website (I saw Spin Sucks in one of the related posts and I thought – hey, I know who Gini is because of Shelly K). I discovered Jodi’s voice through Margie Clayman responding to my tweet that it’s a week shy that my cyberstalker has been after me (and Margie connected me to Angela). 

    I’m so sorry this happened to you – were you ever able to figure out how he got the cameras into your house? 

    The laws need to be changed and I hope, after my story is finished (who knows when that will be) that I’ll be able to help get them changed (and in the meantime I’ll support any organization that is working towards more strict laws with cyberstalking, stalking and harassment). 

    Thanks for sharing your story!

  • mmangen The laws need to be changed. It’s sad that someone can cyberstalk you and there are no repercussions. The law, as it stands now, requires that someone physically harm you before anything can be done. Seems pretty backwards, no?

  • BrandanPaul

    ginidietrich mmangen So you are saying this is perfectly legal for mangen to do? DMCA does not,
    https://www.chillingeffects.org/notices/10147324#

  • BrandanPaul I do not know what you are talking about. This is a blog about PR and marketing.

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